Jackie Hopkins, Organ Donation, Donor Network West

In the wake of her daughter Kate’s passing, we will talk about the beautiful legacy she has left on other lives in the way of organ donation.

Jackie and Dena have been kindred spirits walking the same path as they have both lost their daughters two weeks apart in March of 2014.

When Kate turned 18 she was looking through DMV paperwork and she decided to be an organ donor. But she just chose to donate her organs only. This decision was based upon a conversation she had with her mother prior to her decision. She wanted to help someone in the lieu of her passing.

Jackie shares how you can delineate what you want to donate. Heart, bones, eyes, tissue, organs etc. You can tailor it to your desires.

Kate went to Yosemite on Spring Break and was long-boarding and fell and she was found with no heart beat and was unresponsive. Paramedics got her heart working again and they tried brain surgery and was declared brain dead.

There are about 150,000 people in the United States waiting for organs to become available.

When a donor becomes available they need to do all sorts of tests and matching. When Kate passed, it took two days for all of the matching to be done and they had a match in two days.

Dena wants to acknowledge the polarity of experiencing grief and simultaneously giving live to one or more people.

Jackie says she had to find something good in the tragedy and that is what she found.

Kate’s major organs were all being donated. Heart, kidneys, pancreas, liver, eyes and tissue.

To be a deceased donor, you basically have to die in the hospital because the organs cannot be deprived of oxygen. The heart has to be pumping blood as well.

Kate did donate to three people that Jackie knows of. Her heart and one kidneys went to a 50 year old man in Sacramento.

And the other kidneys and pancreas went to a woman with diabetes. She is no longer a diabetic and she is no longer on dialysis.

Her liver went to a man in Bakersfield and they have not heard from him lately but they have heard from the other two.

The donor network will act as the intermediary between the donors and the recipients.

Are recipient of the heart, wrote us a letter within two weeks. They met with him. He is doing great. He has a full time job and is doing work with the boy scouts. He is active and living his life. She met him in person. They hugged and she could feel his heart beat!

Even though this was a tragedy, she helped a lot of people. It was nice to make a connection and that is what life is about.

We want the empower people to be life changing individuals while they are alive and to leave a legacy even in a passing.

She gets a mother’s day card every year from one of the recipients who received the gift of life. But at the same time, they feel a level of guilt. They don’t want to celebrate so it is tricky. Pull both ways.

It is a dichotomy. You grieve but you also find joy. The pain doesn’t go away but it changes. You live simultaneously with joy and pain. And it gets easier.

Jackie is a volunteer now with Donor Network West who matches people in need with organ donation. Each year there are 20-30,000 people needing organ donations.

Jackie’s position is about educating people on organ donation. Give them facts so they can make an informed decision. She usually speaks at high school and she encourages students to talk to their parents. When you are in the hospital and death is eminent, it is NOT the time to decide whether you will donate organs or not.

Donations can be made while you are alive. Kidney donor. Partial liver donation. It is not as common in the United States.

Jackie tells of the incredible story of a woman who needed a heart. She got the heart and lungs from a donor and they took her heart and gave it to someone else and they are both doing fantastic!

Common asked questions, if I am in an accident and I am an organ donor, will I just be cast aside? Absolutely not! You will get the best of care for everything! She went to the front of every line.

Colleen says that she checked the box on her drivers license that she wanted to be an organ donor. Once that is done, you go into a National Database and it is all organized by birth date. The list is anonymous. You can go online and update what you want for your donation.

Age is not a limit, There is no discrimination due to age or illness. Babies can be organ donors as well.

iSoulify encourages you to pay attention to organ donation and revisit your desires with everyone in the family.

Recipients have to take anti-rejection drugs the rest of their lives. Organ donation is not a free ticket, organs can fail and organs can get rejected.

Recipients have to go through extensive psychological testing and counseling to make sure they will be able to handle receiving.

Kidney donation has the highest survival rate. People waiting for kidneys can use dialysis while they are waiting.

24 people die everyday waiting for an organ to become available.

Sometimes geography can be an issue. You may receive an organ in Hawaii perhaps!

Organ Procurement Organizations. OPO. Each state is different in the amount of OPO’s they may have. California has four and they are based on population. $13 million people are in each OPO.

California has more than 24,000 people on the waiting list. More than 20% of the organ needs are right here!

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Thank you for sharing the vulnerability of your heart with us.

Organ Donation is not for everyone and that is ok!

Philosophy: I will do what I can do and you do what you can do and the world will be in a much better place.

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Andrea Telfer-Karbo Show Notes

http://www.theremedymartinez.com

Andrea is a Functional Medicine Practitioner

How did she get on the path of wellness?

at Age 6, her sister was diagnosed with Leukemia. 4 years in and out of hospitals.

Her memory was about curiosity. She saw that whatever was going on wasn’t working. She always loved science. It shifted her perspective on the world. What is true? She saw it fail for her sister.

A Naturopath is a regular MD and trained in herbal medicine with the focus on wholeness.

Something shifted when she was 15, her mother used remedies and naturopathic medicine to heal her mono in 1/3 of the time. Her Mom cared for her in a non-traditional way.

There can be continued exploration and you can be faithful to your beliefs.

Andrea developed anxiety and over stimulation of her nervous system. She worked with a chiropractor and a functional medicine doctor and rid of it in 6 months time.

If you are going to be a good healer, you can’t be mono dimensional. Being a nurse practitioner is a hands on experience. You need to get the humanness out of the experience. After graduation, she serviced people that didn’t have health insurance. It enabled her to have hands on experience and she was practicing her functional medicine training and it was working! The universe opened up.

What is functional medicine? Root cause medicine. We are looking for the one cause. Actually, usually it is many symptoms, one cause or many causes and one symptom. Why why why why?

We look at the whole person, the stress level and the environment. Once you figure out one thing, all the others disappear.

My sibling Stephanie has a masters in trans formative psychology. She is teaching EFT, Tapping, self counseling, intuitive, and energy medicine. You cannot heal the body if the brain is in a traumatic state.

Andrea uses a modality called Energy Response Medicine. People’s energy will lead the science. It is asking the bodies energy systems if it is ok if we do this or that? We do intense labs. It is important to touch the body.

Andrea and her sister have a wellness center in downtown Martinez, CA~The Remedy.

We start at the gut because that will determine 80-90 % of the problem. We systematically tackle your health. Heal and seal. GIMAP. Most of these are expensive.

Connect the dots of mind body and soul.

Colleen Gianatiempo

gianatiempocolleen@gmail.com

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Grace Redman

Dare to Achieve

Success and Transformation Coach and Entrepreneur

Shaping Women’s Lives to be the best they can be!

Let’s start with her journey! Grace and Dena went to high school together.

Grace started out in a staffing career. She was driven by the need to take care of herself. She took all the training from that experience and went off on her own.

Out of fear and doubt came something wonderful.

Fear and doubt is a natural state of mind and one of survival~fight or flight. Fear protects us. We aren’t running away from wild animals anymore but the fear is to protect us from failure.

What fear does is really hold us back. Push the fear aside and keep going. How do you push fear away?

The main tool, is faith. The universe has your back.

The one thing we heard here is tools! We love tools! We want to provide our podcast listeners with as many tools that we can!

You have to do the work! It takes time! We want things now!

Make a noun into a verb. You aren’t creative. You DO creative.

Experience builds upon itself and is a building block and becomes a structure.

Independence drove Grace to start her own business.

The question, “Am I good enough?” comes up when people are looking for a job. The coaching piece surfaced at this time. Grace loves to help people see their worth. They didn’t believe in themselves.

Connection is so powerful.

Grace’s friends would always come to her for coaching.

She went and got coaching certifications. This is when she had revelations and deep transformation. She wanted other people to feel the same way she was feeling and she wanted to share.

She learned not to take things personally and learned there is not failure, only feeback and that true happiness comes from within, not the outside.

Gratitude is huge. She was focusing on the things that weren’t working. There is something scientific about putting pen to the paper that makes a shift. She recommends doing this first thing in the morning. Choose one thing to five things. It will shift your energy. Write what you are grateful for and why?

It helps with workplace job satisfaction. It doesn’t mean you are settling. It means you can be eager for more~for improvement. It is a mindset shift. Be grateful that you are aware! The contrast. It gives you clarity.

Pain is contrast. We need to honor pain.

You have to believe!

Hypnosis is very helpful. We don’t want people to think we are crazy! It works and the results are amazing.

We have to hold space and honor them. Accept people where they are!

We get you relaxed. When you are relaxed you can access your subconscious state. We can drop positive statements into the subconscious mind. You need to listen to this every day.

We can turn areas of the brain on and off! We are able to create new neuro pathways! Our brain’s job is to keep us alive, not happy!

Self hypnosis focus’ on forgiveness, body image, self worth.

She also uses NLP training. What is that? Learning how people succeed and modeling after that. She mentions that Tony Robbins is a master at this!

NLP has many different modalities. The take away is to take the personal where with all and practice these tools on a daily basis. Take the power back. It is completely in your realm. Fill your cup and then you are able to give back.

90% of what motivates others is they want to give back.

One must come from a place of happiness and peace.

Expectations are planned disappointments. What one person can really meet all of our expectations?

Grace also incorporates Ho-oponopono which is a Hawaiian practice of reconciliation and forgiveness, an ancient healing modality.

I love you. Thank you. I am sorry. I forgive you.

When we are anxious or fearful. Get quiet with yourself and consistently repeat these four sentences. You will feel better. When we find compassion for ourselves we can have compassion for others.

Some people interpret things based on their imprint and their experience and sometimes doesn’t align with ourselves.

When you take something personal, you start judging yourself. I get curious. What must the other person be going through? It releases my self judgement.

The cycle of thought does not go away. They are necessary. The cycle shortens. Emotions diminish.

She is working on a book and online classes.

In November of 2019, Grace has a story coming out in a compilation book called Kindness Crusader.

www.kindnesscrusader.com

She is working on a book on how to diminish the negative self chatter and live a fun and fabulous life!

This book will educate you on how to raise raise your vibration! Release date and title to come later!

Dr. Joe Dispenza talks about rewiring the brain. His latest book is: Becoming Supernatural: How Common People Are Doing the Uncommon.

The book, The body keeps the score by Bessel Van Der Kolk, MD also speaks to the fact that you can rewire your brain.

So, we are NOT stuck. That is the message here. You do have to be mentally ready.

Grace just finished reading Oprah’s book, The Path Made Clear.

Most peopl believe that you can’t change the system and you can’t learn at the age you are. This is just a belief and one that YOU can change.

Online courses are at www.daretoachieve.com

We focus on self love, gratitude, creation, manifestation, loving your sexy etc.

Love and transformation is the bottom line!

Remember that everyone is different.

Any parting words for our listeners?

I love you. Thank you. I am sorry. I forgive you.

Just have fun! Creating, manifesting has a lot to do with your vibration!

Tap into your internal power and thrive!

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Raised in the idyllic and close-knit northern California town of Moraga, Kristen Lewis Cunnane had it all at 12: a treasured family, close friends, a valued position on a variety of sports teams, and excellent grades. By any pre-teen’s standards, hers was certainly a life to envy.

Unfortunately, this happiness was to be short-lived as Kristen suffered sexual abuse at the hands of her middle school science teacher. Afraid to discuss the event with her parents or close friends, Kristen turned to a trusted female coach and teacher for guidance. When they first met, Julie Correa was seemingly the perfect role model for a naive 11-year-old. However, this woman spent years earning Kristen’s trust while at the same time manipulating her psyche. In a sickeningly ironic twist, this so-called mentor ultimately transformed Kristen’s life into one of sexual slavery over the entirety of her high school tenure. With controlling and calculated precision, Correa was able to both isolate Kristen from her family and simultaneously assault her in her childhood bedroom.

In this podcast, Kristen shares here haunting, insightful, and inspiring story that showcases a deplorable side of humanity while at the same time manages to remind us of the sheer strength of the human spirit.

BOOK: UNDOING JANE DOE

Kristen’s book Undoing Jane Doe chronicles her heartbreaking experience and the harrowing aftermath that nearly drove her to suicide. Using actual transcripts from pretexual phone calls and court records, Cunnane takes the reader through the years of prolonged abuse and the eventual takedown of a sexual predator.

https://www.amazon.com/Undoing-Jane-Doe-Teacher-Sexually/dp/1620060019/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=undoing+Jane+Doe&qid=1574959658&sr=8-1

MEDIA COVERAGE:

Videos:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=HkCbZbYzCWQ (2012), 9:15

https://m.youtube.com/watch?v=fKLZpz0MaW4 (2013), 4:32

https://www.cbspressexpress.com/cbs-news/releases/view?id=42936

https://www.cbsnews.com/video/ipad-exclusive-former-olympic-coach-teri-mckeever-supportive-of-kristen-cunnane/

“Kristen’s Secret,” CBS 48 Hours (2014), 43:13

https://www.cbsnews.com/news/kristen-cunnanes-harrowing-tale-of-a-coachs-sexual-abuse/

https://www.imdb.com/title/tt3001454/

Articles:

https://calbears.com/coaches.aspx?rc=482&path=wswim

Kristen Cunnane, Cal Women’s Associate Head Coach, Resigns

https://www.collegeswimming.com/news/2015/jul/20/hill-cunnane-choose-family/

https://www.swimmingworldmagazine.com/news/cal-coach-kristen-cunnane-wins-2-85-million-settlement-in-sex-abuse-lawsuit/

Years before #MeToo, this East Bay woman spoke out. Now her abuser is set for release and she’s speaking again.

https://www.change.org/p/moraga-school-district-issue-a-formal-apology-to-kristen-cunnane

https://sports.yahoo.com/blogs/prep-rally/former-sexually-abused-champion-coach-banned-speaking-her-104759781.html

https://broadblogs.com/tag/kristen-lewis-cunnane/

ABOUT THE AUTHOR:

Kristen Lewis (Cunnane) was a star student and multi-sport athlete in her middle school and high school in California who went on to become an Academic All-American (majoring in history) and captain of the swimming team at UCLA, accomplished enough in that sport to make the semifinals of the Olympic Trials in 2004 in butterfly. Pursuing a master’s in education at Cal-Berkeley, she first volunteered as an assistant for the women’s swim team, then was hired to be an assistant coach, and finally moved up to associate head coach under Teri McKeever. Given chief responsibility for recruiting, Kristen played a key role in the success Cal had in winning four NCAA championships between 2009 and 2015, when she finally retired to start raising a family, now including three children, with her high school sweetheart Scott Cunnane.

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Yogacharya Ellen Grace O’Brian, Author, Speaker, Spiritual Leader

https://www.csecenter.org/Ellen-Grace-OBrian

Yogacharya Ellen Grace O’Brian – Biography

Yogacharya Ellen Grace O’Brian

Books:

Living The Eternal Way

A Single Blade of Grass

The Jewel of Abundance

Live in the Soul

The Moon Reminded Me

She is the director of the Center for Spiritual Enlightenment in San Jose California

She is also the author of several books on meditation and spiritual practice and enlightenment:

She has been quoted by saying “Your life is eternal and your essential self was never born and it will never die”

You are a spiritual leader.  

What inspired you to do this work early on.  How did you get here?  It is helpful to look at our soul journey.  You can see this in the lives of children.  She has always had an interest in spirituality.  She did not grow up in a religious household.  Somehow she thinks that as a child, she was trying to balance things out.  I wanted to learn about God and Spirit.  She would go off to her friend’s churches.  She was on a quest.  Her parents didn’t discourage her.  The root of being a spiritual teacher was right there.  She loved to sit in her room and be quiet and contemplate things.  She was having a meditative experience.  She displayed leadership qualities as a child.  She ran into a friend from Junior High, and we were reminiscing.  She remembered Ellen always starting groups and being the leader.  Young people are practicing what they are going to do later on.  

Being a western woman, what introduced you into Indian philosophy.  What took you there.  She was searching for many years.  In college, she started out in religious studies but she found them really boring.  She was looking for a spiritual experience.  She needed an avenue she could follow.  She wanted to know about and not just read about it.  The turn came at the juncture when she was 30 she met her spiritual teacher Roy Eugene Davis who was a direct disciple of Paramahansa Yogananda who brought Kriya Yoga to this country.  She was ordained as a minister in 1982.  You are a teacher of yoga.  You are a yogacharya.  Teacher of yoga.  Respected teacher like a Reverend.  She was in this world of Interfaith interreligious and I need this term that fits better.  She was deemed a Yogacharya.  

What does a teaching experience look like?  They have a leadership training program and yoga practice.  It is not a religion.  Students learn what kriya yoga philosophy is.  And how to live it.  Retreats, courses and developing your own spiritual life.  

There are 8 limbs of yoga.  It gives you pointers of how to live and meditate.  It gives these guides at a high level.  For example, there is a principle of non-violence.  If I live my life in a non-violent way, how would I live, how would I eat.  There are guidelines but you need to find your way.  You watch your speech, you watch your thoughts.  In terms of the yoga life, it is like that.  The key is that you are trying to create a balanced, healthy, peaceful life.  The whole of yoga is about being anchored in the soul. When we are out of balance, we are distracted about being attracted to yourself.  Quiet your mind, balance your body.  Be connected and live from your soul.

You are an author.  Tell us about your books and the heart behind them.  

Energy.  How to have an abundance of it.  How do you take an intangible and root it down.  Mind vs spirit.  Is it your soul, is it your thought, is it your mind? Is it compartmentalized?  That is the best question.  That is what we do in yoga.  The practice of self inquiry.  You are asking the fundamental question.  What am I?  Am I the mind? the soul?  is there a boundary.  In Yoga philosophy, we are consciousness.  We are spirit emanating as souls.  One reality.  God, life, spirit it then expresses as individuals.  That spirit within us is birthless, deathless and pure.  It is the inner light that illuminates the mind.  The body is a physical vehicle.  The mind is a subtle vehicle for the soul.  Both the body and the mind are subject to change.  We observe the body.  We observe the mind.  We observe inspirations, emotions, thoughts.  Then we say, what is observing?  There you have it!  It takes you right into the awareness of your true self as the witness and the observer.  The observer is your soul.  Can the soul change?  The essence is unchangeable.  You have a sense of your own self.  Our existence is always the same.  

When someone is deemed a terrible person, is their soul bad?  There are different levels of the mind.  The repository of karmic imprints.  Their mind is computer and is recorded in the mental field.  These impressions are like seeds and they remain until there is a situation that allows them to come to fruition. This is the expression of Karma.

If you react strongly to someone, and later you say, why did I react but something got triggered.  Those buttons live in the mental field.

People who are difficult are acting out their own karma.  Without an awakening, they deepen those patterns.  They need to free up those patterns.  

Can the karmic seeds go from lifetime to lifetime?  The teachings say that at death the body falls away but the seeds remain.  Those seeds, have the person draw to them a life circumstances that allow them to fulfill those karmic seeds.  

Everybody at the core of their being is perfect and enlightened of supreme consciousness but it gets covered by seeds.

You cannot get any more spiritual than you already are.  Yoga is about arranging conditions in your life so your wholeness can come forth.  You don’t have to be ruled by your karma.

We need to live by the promptings of your soul and not by the reactions of your mind.

She gives an example of a teaching of a scripture.  The spiritual path sometimes takes place as the battlefield which is in our own mind.

The desire to put at bay the negative thoughts and emotions.  We need to be warriors and work through our battlefield.  Yoga is freedom and liberated by the reactive nature.  

The promise of yoga is the destiny of every person is to wake up.  This is the purpose of your life.  Express yourself in the highest way.  We all have equal opportunity.  

Life can be challenging at times with heartbreak.  The distinction is important for women….waking up does not mean that we don’t feel anymore.  It is part of being human.  However, we no longer have to be controlled by anger, greed, lust, but we can still feel them but not be controlled by them.  

How do you help people who are searching for their life’s purpose?  That is wonderful.  It is the beginning of the journey.  The jewel of abundance.  This prosperity is a rich life.  It starts with the innate urge to know our purpose.  We are all here to wake up.  Learn how to live a spiritual life and cooperate with the infinite.  

This is dharma.  This is the foundation of all life.  Then express individual talents.  That is your svadharma.  It is connected to your dharma.  

Is the process continual?  What about gifts, like music?  Does it come in many formats?  It is helpful not to confuse dharma with vocation.  Your work supports your authentic being.  It is a mistake to say that your job is your dharma.  It says that you are looking outside of yourself.  

She has three children, and she experienced their soul qualities that are playing out in their dharmas.  Her daughter was sensitive as a child.  And she is playing this out as an adult by fostering dogs and being a nurse.  Her dharma is to express compassion. There is a connection of the divine qualities within you that find your way.  

She started writing poetry as a child.  It was a way to express her introverted nature.  The Moon reminded me of her latest one.  It has poems about the devotion of yoga, meditation and family.  Yoga is about wholeness.  These poems are like streams that come together.  

Jewel of abundance is about to connect with your own abundant self.

What are the four universal goals.  balanced.

1.  Dharma authentic living.  higher purpose.  cooperate with the infinite.

2. Artha.  Wealth.  This is about how to attract the resources in life to fulfill your dharma.  

3. Kama.  Pleasure.  Enjoy life.  The nature of the soul is joy itself.  

4. Moksha.  Liberation of consciousness. 

Those are like the four legs of the table.  

What is the day in the life of Ellen look like?

She travels a lot.  She meditates when she can.  She does an hour of study and meditation every morning.  She does 10 minutes a day of yoga.  She likes to walk and cook.  She loves to teach and connect with family.

Tell us about your non-profit.

Non-violence.  How can we serve in our community?  Bring some tools of non-violence into the community.  Bring groups together.  There is an educational Carry The Vision.org.  It teaches stress reduction in schools and prisons.  Yoga can be too focused on the self but you need to give back.  This is giving back.   We work with the vulnerable population.

They have on-line classes.  On her author site she has year long programs.  

We are honored to meet you and know that you are a change maker.  

Does energy play into someone connecting to their own consciousness.  There is a six week course that is about basic philosophy.  

There are qualities in nature that are moving and changing all the time.  They color our experience.  They have energy.   With the pandemic we feel the dark energy.  The sorrow and suffering can be felt.  We need to change the energy.

You can impact your energy.  

Parting words.

In the heart is a well, in the heart is a well filled with the sound of silence, drink from it.  One taste changes everything. How do I know?  The day I sat on the edge and fell in told me this.

Jump into the spirit!  

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This podcast will take you on a journey of self healing and discovery

Julee had a baby named Jackie that passed away from SIDS.

Julee did not have good coping skills. Sex drugs and rock and roll was how she coped.

Things changed when she listened to her intuition when it told her to paint. She gabbed paint and a brush and began to paint.

It made her become present and really still for the first time in 4 years. The paper was receiving my grief.

Julee got to the point where she wants to share this with others to help them heal.

Chris Zydel taught Julee this intuitive painting process.

Welcome To Creative Juices Arts

The God knock told her that this was her thing! Julee feels like she is meant to serve her community.

She opened a business called Canvas and Cabernet and she felt like everything she had learned in her life previously prepared her for this moment. It as a huge success. Her tag line for the business is It is cheaper than therapy!

Julee has became a philanthropic heart.

ARM-Art Recreation and Movement. Amy works with girls that have been trafficked.

ARM of Care

STAND-Works with people that are coming out of domestic violence.

http://www.standffov.org

These two organizations helped me get a rooting into the concept locally.

People like to express themselves with a medium other than language. People need to learn how to sooth themselves.

Getting to a place of being present forces you to heal. But you also have to FEEL. You can’t heal when you can’t feel.

A funny little saying is “the issues are in the tissues“.

Being quiet allows you to scan your body and see where the pain is residing. Half the battle is just being CURIOUS. It allows you to investigate. Once you recoginze pain in your body, it releases. Bringing awareness is half the battle.

Drop into meditation. Then do a body scan. Stop in places where you hold tension. The second chakra is where your creativity and intuition lie. The second mind. People hold a lot of tension in their hips. It is a powerhouse.

Once you recognize where grief and intuition lie in the body, check in and see if it has a color, a fragrance, an image? It makes it tangible. Whatever shape it is for them, I have them carry it out of their body. TRANSFORM IT. Transform the energy into a positive. What would it look like? This is called embodiment.

Trauma lives in the body. Julee helps them to connect to it and keep in that space and create art, you move the energy up and out. Julee helps people with this practice and what comes out of it is empowerment.

Emotions can be crippling. It doesn’t have to be. Julee gives people the tools.

Exquisite self care. Taking yourself to the next level. Invest in yourself. This is vital. Raise your vibration up. Our society teaches us to be concerned about the external, not internal. Everything starts within.

Julee is working with women that are experiencing burn out. Reclaiming studios is her new venture. One for one model. She is helping women. She is helping women that have lost themselves in being a wife, mother and professional.

If you are not local, you can attend one of Julee’s retreats. This combines this work with yoga and good food. You can do on-line group coaching as well.

For The Love of Cups is an organization that Julee is helping to empower and helping with fundraising. This helps women that are in the throws of cancer and gives them support.

https://www.fortheloveofcups.org

Parting words. Meditate, body scan, journal and paint. If you don’t paint you can use cooking, writing, sports. Anyone can use whatever you have around. Magic markers, pens. Use your intuition pick the colors and trust it as it will take you on a cool journey.

Help the audience tap into their creativity. Intentionality and intuition. It is a deep dive. It is about being curious. It doesn’t come from our intellect. First quiet your mind, if you sense judgment it is not your intuition. It is the noticing, the listening, the observer part of your being. You have to dive deep.

It will be nurturing and will come to your mind, you may tingle. Your intuition will be stronger. You must build a relationship with your intuition. It is imperative that you be quiet through the painting process.

Oracle cards, oils, candles help create a space that is different than your everyday space. Do you use state changers like music to help get you into the space? Your state can change with different typos of music.

Let’s circle back to the one to one model of business. She is very sensitive to foster care children. A lot of them end up in juvenile detention. Julee helps them with self soothing through painting through an organization that helps these young adults. She is preventing kids from indulging in bad behaviors like drugs, alcohol, cutting, etc.

The book is called The Body Keeps the Score by van der Kolk M.D. The best book around trauma.

https://www.amazon.com/Body-Keeps-Score-Healing-Trauma

Our brains have a way of turning certain parts of our brain off for survival. And Julee’s work is helping to turn it back on. If you don’t turn this back on, it will control you the rest of your life. Julee is using some of the money from reclaiming studios to fund her work with foster kids. She wants to train people also to help these kids. It takes resources. Great leaders make great leaders.

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Phyllis Ginsberg is our guest today. She is an MA and MFT and author of Tired and Hungry No More and Brain Makeover. She is known as a survival to thrival expert.

She specializes in positive psychology, brain research, 30 years of MFT, and EFT tapping allow her clients and you to make lasting and profound changes in your life.

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Author of Tired and Hungry No More – Not Your Ordinary Guide to Reclaiming Your Health & Happiness and Brain Makeover – A Weekly Guide to a Happier, Healthier & More Abundant Life. (Both books are available on Amazon in paperback and for Kindle.)

Website:phyllisginsberg.com

Reach out to podcast creators Dena and Colleen at support@strongerthanyouknow.com

She is an expert in survival thinking

She grew up with a mom in chronic pain – migraines and arthritis. As a child, she took on the responsible roll. She cooked, cleaned, and took care of the family at the age of 6.

She grew up in a tense household where she was supposed to be quiet and not ask questions.

At 37, her mother was diagnosed with breast cancer and within 10 months passed away.

Her father wasn’t around much growing up. He was a breadwinner, but was not emotionally or physically available.

The career she chose was for her own survival. What spurred her to go to therapy for the first time was after she had her first daughter and all her grief came to the surface.

Her grief showed up in waves because she shelved it for years. She felt naive growing up because she did not know what resources were out there. Once she began the self-help journey, it became a passion for her.

She became a marriage and family therapist and in the process she learned a lot about herself. She thought the Masters program would take care of all of her issues, she wanted the education for herself to be a better mom.

In 1999, she moved to the Bay Area with her husband and two daughters and opened her own private practice affiliated with the courts. Her specialty was dealing with high conflict divorce cases.

Her internship was 8 years of dealing with AIDs, rape, child abuse. She was in the trenches with the most hard issues. Transitioning to divorce was tame for her.

She was the only mental health professional that would go to court, and sometimes she would get sworn in to testify.

In 2005 she had an 8 month waiting list. She was very successful.

In the meantime, she began to lose herself. She was functioning on autopilot and being there for everyone else. She did not put her wants or needs first.

She feels her default is a “thinker” not a “feeler.” This makes her a different kind of therapist as she takes a different approach than most.

She began to feel stressed, and she wasn’t sleeping well. She was managing work and a family and it was too much for her. In hindsight, she knew she took on way too much. She thought she could do it all, but she couldn’t.

She was doing what she thought she was supposed to.

She decided to take a sabbatical. In the first 6 months, she felt the brunt of that load. It took her that long to get clients’ stories out of her head. She had trouble remembering simple things, and she needed her brain to rest.

She needed a break to calm her nervous system. She began going to Feldenkrais classes. These classes are a series of small movements. She thought of it as nap time. It was a mind-body connection that calmed the nervous system.

She talks about how she works a lot with fight-or-flight with clients. It may feel like not enough time or energy to get things done or feeling rushed. Physiologically, stress hormones release and compromise blood flow, digestion, and metabolism.

She says we have become “Human Doings” instead of “Human Beings.”

Phyllis got in touch with herself. She said it was the best thing that ever happened to her. She then wanted to share it with others. She entered a new chapter in her life.

She began doing EFT tapping and meditation and went back to her practice. She used them with high conflict divorce cases, especially with kids and stressed out adults.

Her first book, Brain Makeover, is all about what you can do. There are 52 weekly readings to apply to one’s life. To make a difference in your life, you MUST do something different, and that is what this book is about.

Humans run on autopilot, which is not helpful when we want to make changes in our life.

When one is trying to overcome something, the struggle is the issue. When you build new neural pathways, creating a direction allows the change to be easier.

She started her book with a blog. She blogged 5 days a week while she was on her sabbatical. Every Monday she would write about 2 paragraphs, short and sweet. She got a lot of satisfaction out of putting the short blog posts together. She did not get a tremendous following, which ended up being a good thing because she may not have been as motivated to write a book if her blog was successful.

This blog ended up inspiring her to write a book.

She forgot that when she was 27 she wanted to teach and write a book. Now, here she is today, following that dream.

Marketing was not daunting to her because her undergraduate degree is in business and marketing. She came out with Brain Makeover 5 years ago, and she just came out with a second edition personal development and self discovery. There is a new EFT tapping section and a daily activities section.

An example of a daily activity is thinking about the happiest moments of the day. All day long, one will be thinking about what made them happy that day. It is a shift from problem-focused mode to a happy-looking mode. It helps people tune in and be present.

She wants people to get to know themselves better. The difference between happiness of the day vs gratitude of the day is that it will allow someone to discover what truly speaks to them.

Phyllis has shifted to acknowledge her feelings more, but she says it all still starts with thought. It is about shifting away from a problem-focused survival mode thinking.

It takes decades to make a huge paradigm shift. She hopes we are at the beginning of humanity not needing to be in survival mode. There is nothing chasing us – emails from our bosses cause the same response that being chased by a lion would.

Her book was ready a year before she was to go public and learn public speaking. She had to go through training and do a lot of self-work to have a presence and not blend in. It was hard making this about herself when she has always been focused on other people. She has never been the center of everything, so this was a huge leap to put herself out there to go out speaking.

She almost quit speaker training twice, but she persevered. She had a lot of support and encouragement, and this allowed her to manage her fear. She knew she was onto something bigger than herself, and she felt as though she couldn’t give up. Once she created a chart she could speak from, that was a turning point for her and she did not have to hold her notes anymore.

Dena asks how to counteract negative thoughts. She said to say “STOP! Take two.” and choose a different thought. What would you say to your best friend? Say what you would say to a friend, to yourself.

Once she got opportunities, she sold over 1,000 books in the first year locally. She got a lot of positive reactions from her speeches.

EFT tapping counteracts the fight or flight response, and during her talks she calmed people in the audience

EFT tapping was pioneered by Roger Callahan in the late 1970s for psychologists, and then Gary Craig simplified it into the EFT tapping it is today. EFT stands for emotional freedom technique

It took decades to come to the mainstream, however, it is still very unknown around the world.

The next chapter after the book and public speaking was writing another book. Her turning point was after her father had a stroke.

She had a plethora of knowledge about how to eat well. She has been doing it for 40 years. She decided to combine her two passions: having a healthy mind and a healthy body.

Tired and Hungry No More was born. It is full of hundreds of recipes to choose from. It starts from getting your brain on board first; a lasting change cannot be made without the agreement of the brain.

The first step to stop resistance is to acknowledge the resistance. It is hard to wish these thoughts away when they are so strong.

“When you are in the fram you cannot see yourself in the picture.”

Guidance through the steps of awareness is important.

Can we reprogram our brains? Yes, definitely she says. It is said that tapping can rewire our brain.

She encourages that if you find something that resonates with you, do what it is within the first 24 hours of reading it. Your brain is still thinking about it; it is on the top of your mind. As time goes by, it leaves your head.

If you don’t use it, you lose it.

We have to do something different, or else you do not get results.

Originally her book was going to be geared towards children’s food health, but she knew she would be more effective to write the book for adults.

Healthy eating, healthy body, and sleep all factor into our overall health.

Her book has great success stories on Amazon reviews.

In her work, she has transformations every day. Give her 15 minutes, and she can shift a thought. She can help people learn how to shift their own thoughts.

She then conducts an exercise with Dena and Colleen.

EXERCISE: First, think of a situation you are worried about. What is your biggest fear? You may feel stressed or uncomfortable if this situation were to really happen. What if you could change your thoughts about your situation? Your thoughts have created what you are feeling now. She then introduces 12 questions. Think about what you can do differently and how you can think about it in a different way.

1. What are some different outcomes?
2. Who can assist you?
3. What do you want and what do you not want?
4. What else is possible?
5. What other options do you have?
6. Is there another way to do this?
7. Is there an easier way to do this?
8. Who can help you with this?
9. If you had a new idea, I wonder what it would be.
10. I wonder how this could get done easier
11. How do you feel about your situation now?
12. Did you get a new perspective? Do you feel calmer? More hopeful?

Open your eyes and jot down any thoughts you had.

She is writing a new book and this exercise will be in the new book.

Phyllis is able to email these questions as well as information about her books.

For local residents, people can attend Phyllis’ workshops. More details to follow.

Possibility Thinking means to learn how to think broadly. All or nothing ways of thinking is the default. What else is possible? This is one of the most powerful questions to ask.

Are you afraid to push yourself? Many people are afraid to leave their comfort zone, afraid of the unknown, and afraid of failing. Now what do you do?

Small wins lead to significant results.

Tapping is her primary modality because it connects the mind and the body. She believes talk therapy does not help create anything new, it does not rewire one’s brain.

Shifting someone’s thoughts and releasing stored emotions is priceless.

The number 1 way to work intuitively is to slow down. Tuning in can be done with deep breathing, going out in nature, and meditating. Being able to listen to your true self is very important for learning how to trust your intuition.

Where would you tap if you were in a meeting, for example? Under the arm could work. Taking a bathroom break could work for tapping.

The time for using tools isn’t when there is a fire. You want to be proficient in your tools. Find what works for you. Incorporate into a routine in your life. It could be tapping in the bathroom in the morning, or after a meal it could be deep breathing. Anything to anchor into will allow you to have a tool to rely on in times of stress.

Worrying is like sitting in a rocking chair going nowhere; you are focusing on the problem. Solution focus is thinking about possibilities.

Curiosity thinking can be thought of as an experiment. There are 5 questions of curiosity thinking.

1. What is going to happen today?
2. Who will I meet?
3. What will I hear?
4. What will I see?
5. What will I read?

You never know where your next inspiration will come from.

She learned to meditate and eat healthy at age 19. She had a stressful adolescence. If meditating is not something that works for you, find something else. It can come through doing art. Anything that can take you out of thinking and focusing on problems.

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A Mom’s Guide to loving your child through the difficult times while keeping your sanity intact

She is the Mom of an out of control teen and tells a story of a Mother’s love and her determination.She specializes in taking care of Moms

We want to hear from you at iSoulify at support@strongerthanyouknow.com

What brought you to this work?

Her son was difficult.  Everything except get a girl pregnant.  It started in elementary school.  We weren’t good parents because we didn’t have good parents.  On top of that, we didn’t know how to deal with this behavior.  Some of the alternatives like sending your child away is heartbreaking.  

When he was 13, everything was anger and conflict.  He started smoking, doing drugs, gaming, wouldn’t go to school, he would have on-line relationships, he shoplifted.  The police called a few times.  

She sent him to Washington to live with a relative and he got arrested during that time after being there for only a week.

She did not give up.  What she was doing was not working.  He was in a special program at the continuing high school campus.  He would get into trouble at school.  He was home for four months.  It was escalating.  We tried so many different things.  

Social skills class, therapy, medication, sports, church, 

She finally turned to her minister for help. 

He asked her, Do you want this kin of prison for your son, or this kind?  

We made the decision to send him away.

Her son didn’t have any idea why.  He thought he was fine.  

No remorse. No empathy.  No apologies.

There are educational Consultants that help you research therapeutic schools.  Fusion Academy is one that they tried.  for kids that don’t fit in the mold.  

They know the programs that are available and they are so helpful.  You can Google it.  

Prepare to Bloom is the one she is working with now.  They keep up with programs and the industry.

Her son went to a residential therapeutic school in Southern Utah.  They didn’t speak to him for three months.  Then there were weekly calls with his therapist.  It was tough and it was a relief.  She was scared, sad and walked on eggshells.  You hire a company in the middle of the night to come and get your child to go to the school.  We love you and goodbye.  Then it went dark and quiet.

He was gone for 15 months.  He was home for 3 months and then they sent him away again.  This happened several times.  The put him in a boarding school in New Hampshire for his senior year.  He got kicked out a month before he graduated.

But he did get to graduate.  That was the goal. You want them to be alive and off drugs.  

Let’s talk about Lisa’s journey.  There was not a lot of support out there for parents who are going through this experience.  That is why she decided to support Moms.  Everyone wants to fix the teenagers.

We treat the symptoms but what is the root cause and the dynamics.

She was parenting through guilt.  “would you be doing this in front of your friends?”

She had to change her habits.  She had to tell herself to shut up.  It is better to not say anything.  

She raised herself.  She was a latch key child.  

There is a lot of support for the Mom’s of younger babies and then it goes dark.  There is not a lot of groups out there.  

We needed to treat him like a competent person.  We have all created beliefs about a person.  Everything feels unworthy at times.  We need to give them the platform to feel what they need to feel.  Feel the pain is the only way through it.  

The Mask you live in is a film all about toxic masculinity.  There are 1 in 5 people who are highly sensitive.  His son learned this behavior to protect his heart.

After graduation, he went to a local college and he didn’t do well.  They told him he needed to move out and be responsible.  He did.  He saw that it wasn’t all about him.   He was working at a real job!  He is happy and they connect.  What does he think about this now?  She got his permission to write the book.  He doesn’t have an issue about sharing.  He wants to let that part of his life go.

What other work did Lisa do?  She was miserable at the corporate job.  She wanted to be an EFT practitioner.  She became certified.  8 weeks of writing a book you go through who is your audience and then she wrote the book in 10 days.  This is where the focus came in.  

The book was cathartic and she continued to heal and acknowledge what she had gone through.  

How did your husband evolve over time?  Her heart goes out to single parents.  He took a bit longer to come around.  He started to connect with their son in a way that gave him authority, competency and respect as a person.  It is amazing that the two of you stayed in tune with each other during difficult times.  

It impacts everyone in the family.  Lisa recommends that you work with the Moms.  Tapping is great to move through emotions.  Then you can think more clearly.  The heart has more neurons than the brain.  This is called heart rate variability.  It starts with you.  Work through emotions.  Then make good decisions.  You can put expectations on the table.  Don’t do mind reading.  You shift when you start with yourself.  It is about our beliefs and how we see the world around us.  We can change beliefs that we have about us or our children.  Stop labeling yourself.  Don’t hold onto those forever and ever.  If it isn’t serving you, let it go.  

Follow the tapping exercises in her book to learn how to release old beliefs.  I deeply love and accept myself is a good statement.  You can re frame.  It is ok to not do things perfectly.  

Matrix Reimprinting?  It an advanced EFT technique.  You can work with your younger selves during the time when they are going through a trauma.

www.matrixreimprinting.com

You can tap on your 3 year old self.  And ask them how this picture would change (the trauma) and imprint the new picture into the body.  You no longer carry the trauma and you form a new belief.  It is changes at a deep level.

Energy can spin around itself.  It allows energy to move through you.  Tapping allows this to happen.  

Moms in general can learn to help kids at a young age to work through their emotions.  They don’t have to have baggage!

Lisa helps people of all ages!  Both of Lisa’s children are doing awesome now and it makes her so happy!

Breaking generational chains!

Parting words: treat your children as people first and children second.  

Lisa  Gay Nichols

lisa@tappingintoyourtrueself.com

(925) 980-9477

www.lisagaynichols.com

Instagram:  @lisagaynichols

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Candyce Pirtle-Smalls

Use self love to break the emotional bonds of domestic violence.

http://www.fitinherkitchen.com/

Book: Mindful Meal Prep: Clean, Delicious Recipes for Weight Loss available on Amazon.

Abuse hotline for help: https://www.thehotline.org/

Candyce Pirtle-Smalls is a nurse, educator, holistic transformation health coach and author of the new book, “Mindful Meal Prep Guide.” Known as “Coach Candy,” she is passionate about helping women become the best version of themselves—mind, body and spirit.

She was a victim as a young teenager. She had suppressed her trauma and it showed up as an addiction to food. She became addicted to sugar and carbs. She had no control over food.

In a 3 year period she was gaining about 20lbs. per year. She would get triggered when her husband would invite her to the gym. She would feel angry.

Analogy: It is like trying to put a beach ball under water, it is impossible. It keeps popping up.

What drove you to the food? No reason. Eating through emotions. Mindless. No awareness. She was eating through emotions. I will do what I want. Control. She couldn’t control her thoughts or feelings. It was hurting her marriage. She was feeling bad about herself. She masked it with her ambition. It was the external that she was concerned with. I was present but not really there. What triggered the change? The rock bottom was getting on the scale and she was 196lbs at 5’2”. She admitted she was going to go to boot camp. I am going to do it. She was trying. I was not ready. I did not feel worth the try. She wasn’t ready to do the work. In 6 weeks she lost 15lbs. The momentum shifted. She found love in the kitchen. She took her power back and she put it into the food. She started to deal with the physical part. No one ever told me. Then something started to shift. She was getting sparks in her mind. Light bulbs went off on a deeper level. She was gaining confidence. It is levels to transformation. It went into psychological. It wasn’t about the food. Once she surpassed her goal, she had an awakening. Do I stop this race? She broke through the seal. She started to want to help other people. That was the first spark.

What was the trauma in your childhood? Growing up she witnessed her mother fighting and yelling. Chaos. There were shooting threats. Abandonment. That was the stem of what she knew of relationships. I would not do it if I didn’t love you. Love hurts. Love is pain. Love is physical. She took those concepts with her and manifested it into fear. In a teenage relationship, she became the aggressor. That is how she got trapped into the relationship. She wanted to see if he would hit her back. This is love. Let me test him. Love was action. It was a process of control. He would limit her and control her. She attracted exactly what she knew. She recreated what was comfortable. You didn’t have another role model. It wasn’t her fault. She didn’t realize this until a few years later when she asked her sister, “did Mom ever say she loved you?” And she realized that her mom had never said she loved her. Then she held a grudge. She finally confronted her Mother. And her mother’s mother never showed love to her so it was all she knew! We have to learn the skills and how to love. The tools we were given are not always the way and we need to educate ourselves.

What made her not repeat the family history? It was bigger than me. It was the birth of my son and I did not want that for him and break the chain. She had her son at 16.

She got heightened awareness. Her exit plan was she was either going to kill him and or he was going to kill her. The relationship was done soon after that. She reached a point where she was done. She woke up one day and she was DONE. It was an addiction. It was a sickness. It was about control again. A light bulb went off. I will leave when I want to leave. That is powerful.

She lost 50lbs. Mind, body, soul. She felt called to help others. She wanted to do more. She wrote a book. Mindful Meals…..NEED TITLE. I was growing in my community. My spiritual awakening was happening. Where are you taking my people? It was an out of body experience. She woke up crying and screaming and asking for forgiveness. We have to save the people. She was terrified. Guidance. Obedience. Discipline. That is GOD. It was a spiritual awakening. Which side was going to be on. She chose the right side. She cried writing and changing the book. The fear was a transition from a deep level. The old her to the new her. New ways of being. She chose the light side and left the dark side behind. It was powerful. She saw both. She can’t put it into words. She wants to take other women to the light. It wasn’t about her, it was bigger than her. You had an additional calling to tell your story. This is a brand new point. This is fresh and her only second time sharing this story. It is freedom. She broke the chains and released the trauma. She wanted to be transparent. She is an ordinary girl with an extraordinary mission. Eye to eye. She has helped so many women. This is a season of healing.

WORKSHOP INFORMATION: Email Candyce Pirtle-Smalls <speaking@fitinherkitchen.com>

Her and her Mom are close. Is this hard for her to hear you speak about it? She said, this is your story, you tell it. The forgiveness opened her up too. She is complimentary. It helps her being a survivor too.

It happens to 1 out of 5 women. It is not only physical, it is mental too. Education and awareness is the key. How do you foster wellness if someone isn’t ready to leave? When you are in it, you don’t see that. Hurt people, hurt people. It isn’t about you. It is a trait within them. You keep yourself safe and find a spark that has been dimmed. Self love is the beginning. You need to care for yourself.

Contra costa has a hotline to talk with somebody. Break the silence. When you say it out loud it changes things. 1% of hope is all you need to get out. When you shift, they aren’t going to like it. They will pull it back. Internal is important. You will find the spark. Maybe you take a picture of your old self. To bring you back to where you once were. You are not alone. It is very isolating. It is full of shame. People think lower income and poverty but that is not the case. You get embarrassed. There is a lot of high profile people who have and are abused.

Take care of you and love you and always strive to be a better you.

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Let’s Talk About Money!

In this episode, Jennifer Jost, speaker, money coach and wealth manager teaches you how to move from scarcity to abundance!

Episode Highlights With Jennifer Jost

• How she inspires women in a male dominated industry

• How to build relationships around money

• How to avoid money and addiction

• Sharing stories of resilience and bouncing back

• Jennifer’s personal journey from grief to reclaiming life

• How to find “your people”

• How to access the power and capability inside you

• How to honor pain and befriend pain

• In order to have love for others, you must love yourself first

• How to be vulnerable in front of people

• How to be worthy of joy, happiness and wealth

• Come from love and not anger

• The self critic disrupts all progress

• Learn the tools to deal with emotions when they arise

• Be aware of your flaws and be okay with them

• Learn how to do mirror work and learn to love yourself

• If you don’t feel worthy, your wealth will never grow!

• Don’t get caught up in Society’s “should’s”

• Ask someone smarter than you-Get a coach!

• What do you want to be? 3 years? 5 years?

• Your job is to open up and SLOW DOWN

• Use the word spending plan not budget!

• Jennifer reaches people by being authentic and vulnerable

• Write down 100 things you love about yourself

• Spend money on yourself to retrain your brain

• Rid of thoughts that don’t serve you anymore

• Learn about a CDFA-Certified Divorce Financial Analyst

• Fall in love with your money

Resources We Mention

https://www.jenniferjost.com

Wine, Women and Wealth Meetup Group

https://www.meetup.com/topics/wine-women-and-wealth

Complimentary break-through session with Promo Code: iSoulify

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Jump Start Special $497

https://www.diamondlifestrategies.com

She supports giving money back to #hersmile Nonprofit

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